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I've found in my life that I can handle almost anything from someone if the bond is deep and real, but can handle very little if there is detachment or superficialness or irresponsibilty there. So I can see the childhood connection there too, as I recieved the invasiveness of sexual abuse along with a dynamic of abandonment/irresponsibility/detachment right alongside and can see the rather large wound that horrible combination left. But there again, I think the draw to depth, male responsibility, and true bonding here, which is a huge part of some sorts of taken in hand type relationships, is not a pathology but my body and heart naturally seeking healing. What I grew up with was a mockery of how femininity should be treated--it was used but not nurtured, drained and at the same time taken lightly, treated irresponsibly and with "dont depend on me please, you shouldnt need to anyway" being the constant "song" in the background. The very opposite of how things are designed to be for "Adam's rib". So its no big surprise that an amplification of natural male and female energies in relationships like some taken in hand types are is a real draw. A healing draw I feel.

I don't see this all as only personal though but in some ways far broader-- I think a woman needing to know she can truly depend on her male partner is a very healthy need, and a good sign she is under headship.

I look forward to following this thread (or others like it) if it continues, it's the first one to strike a cord here in a very long time and it was a healing experience reading it : )

by Under His Wing on 2006 Sep 12 - 09:59 | reply to this comment Hera wrote:"If they are i Hera wrote:
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